Most of the great mystics from every tradition seem to stick with this simple statement and go no further. The best interpretation I can put on it is that love is a passive context in which stuff happens. A bit like a big bubble, as in a BIIIIIIIG bubble, which contains the whole universe. And this invisible quality, a bit like oxygen in the air, we breathe it in continually and if we will stop worrying for a moment and just be present with our self then this wonderful love quality is always part of us.
For me I love you and You love me is bullshit. Love is not an active quality. There is no such thing as an act of love, there is only acting in the context of love (as above). Occasionally I see people who are simply in the context of love. They just are, and take it for granted without any effort.
When I was a young man falling in love took the form of a campaign to capture the attention of a girl that I really fancied and combine with many strategies of wooing – I thought this was love because that was what society had taught me. But it was simply manipulation, control and fear of being on my own. The love game that we play is a great game and I really enjoyed it. The only point is that it is a game, and not love. So armed with this really valuable information and knowing that love is and that you can neither make it happen nor destroy it when it does happen then knowing full well that most of the time you are dragging your plough through a barren wasteland, be ready for that rare moment when you are sitting with an open mind looking into the eyes of someone who seems the most amazing person in the world to you that you don’t have to do anything. Love takes care of itself and you at the same time. Enjoy.
